Sayyid Ammar al-Hakim, Head of the Islamic Supreme Council of Iraq (ISCI), has stressed that the social concessions for the sake of achieving the good of the society leads to concessions in the political partnerships, and that the real partnership between the married couple needs a precise balance between the rights and obligations. His Eminence warned the married couple that demanding the rights while denying the obligations exposes the marriage life to danger. His Eminence called on the government institutions to follow in the footsteps of the Foundation of the Martyr of the Niche in assisting the youths to get married, pointing out that this Foundation facilitated the marriage of more than 11,000 man and women due to the favor of Allah Almighty and that of well-to-do believers. This came up during the tenth mass wedding festivity held by the Foundation of the Martyr of the Niche in Baghdad on Friday, October 19, 2012 to coincide with the anniversary of the marriage of the Commander of the Faithful Ali ibn Abu Talib (Ú) and the Batool Lady Fatima al-Zahraa (Ú). He addressed the families of the newlyweds saying that their interference in the marriage life of their sons must be positive if its basis is to help, serve and remove the obstacles from the way of those who have recently gotten married, and it can be a destructive interference if it is not help. His Eminence recommended that the family must regard the groom as its son and the bride their daughter, stressing that marriage life goes on through a distribution of roles between the husband and wife.
His Eminence explained his talk by quoting the recommendations of the Holy Prophet (Õ) to married couples. He explained that the Holy Prophet (Õ) used to commend the husband to sit with his wife and look after her and not be intransigent, pointing out that trust is the basis of the marriage relationship which is characterised by clarity and success. He further explained that marriage is a no-return plan, that both married couples have shortcomings in certain matters and are perfect in other matters; therefore, neither the husband nor the wife must compare themselves with other marriages and the extent of their success. His Eminence explained that the affection to which the Qur’an refers means love, communication, and making each party feel that the other cares about him/her, that tranquility and psychological stability leads to the balance which in turn leads to immunity against transgression and the falling into prohibition. He advised the wife to be good to her husband by administering the affairs of the house, receiving the husband, cooking the food and making the husband feel that he is important to her. He urged the couples to explain their viewpoints to each other, to explain their opinions and to make concessions to each other.